anger-18615_640By Todd Outcalt, author of Husband’s Guide to Breast Cancer

One of our most raw—and at times helpful—emotions, is anger. This response can also be at the center of a cancer diagnosis, when a person first receives the news. Fear may be there, certainly . . . accompanied by anxiety, sadness or dread. But anger is not usually far behind.

Often, anger hits us at the point when we begin to ask questions like: Why me? Or What caused this? Or How will I deal with this?   Anger is, then, a very healthy response to a much larger difficulty, so get mad … at breast cancer

But anger can also be a friend in such a time. I’ve known many women, in particular, who have told me in so many words: “I didn’t really face my fears or create a plan of cancer attack until I got mad. It was anger that provoked me to weigh options, make decisions, and ask the tough questions.”angry cat snipped

Perhaps that is one of the most supportive aspects of National Breast Cancer month—a time for anger to take root in healthy ways through conversation, support networking, and much more. Anger can be a source of healing when channeled properly and creatively—and that’s what can happen when challenges are met head-on and solutions offered.

So . . . bottom line is: anger can be an energy that helps us to focus, affirm, and even share our true feelings. Letting off steam is one of the best ways to clear the body and the mind of tension. Having someone who loves us unconditionally and can affirm our anger is an incredible gift.

With cancer, every patient will eventually get mad. But the deeper questions are: What will you do with that anger? How will you channel it for your healing?

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